Say you're on a Tinder date and the situation turns weird.
"You're thinking, I need to get out, I no longer feel safe," says Celine Guedj, a senior at the University of New Hampshire in Durham. She's role-playing the use of a new app, uSafeUS.
"That's when you open the app," Guedj explains. One feature called Time to Leave is designed to give you a quick out. "You get a fake call" or text, Guedj says. It sounds like it's your mom or your roommate interrupting you with an urgent request.
There are several preprogrammed "interruption messages" such as, "Hey, I'm locked out, can you come let me in."
"It seems real," Guedj says.
Another feature, called Expect Me, will alert a friend if you don't show up to a destination when you're expected. And, one more, called Angel Drink, is a quick way to signal to a bartender or server that you want help to exit a situation or separate yourself from a person who is making you feel uncomfortable.
So why the ruse? Why wouldn't you just bolt or walk out of a situation at the first instinct of potential trouble or bad vibe?
"What the students have told us over and over is that they really want a discreet way to take themselves out of a situation, or help a friend," says Sharyn Potter, a sociology professor at University of New Hampshire who directs research on sexual violence prevention. She helped develop the app with a team of students, designers and a retired state trooper.
Potter says students often don't want to make a scene or they may feel intimidated. "They're not ready to ... directly call somebody out. They want to do it subtly."
The uSafeUS app is free for everyone to download. However, only colleges and institutions that license the app can customize the content to connect users to local resources and support, such as counseling and local law enforcement. The customized app is available for students, faculty, staff, parents/guardians, community members and alumni of universities to use. In addition, the app includes step-by-step information and guidance about what to do in the aftermath of a sexual assault.
The app was piloted on New Hampshire campuses last year and was launched nationally this fall., and beginning in January the team behind the uSafeUS app will be reaching out to campus leaders and high schools around the country to spread the word about the platform. The effort is being funded by a grant from the National Science Foundation.
Still, advocates say that even the best app can't replace human interaction – or help from a person.
"In theory, apps like this sound like a good idea," says Sabrina Sugano, a student at Cornell University who is co-president of Consent Ed, a peer-to-peer education program. She's never used safety apps like this one, but says she can see how they could be useful.
"We have a big emphasis on bystander intervention," Sugano says. "We talk a lot about ways [students] can intervene, say, in a party situation" to help someone who appears to be in an uncomfortable situation. If the app can help aid this bystander approach, Sugano says this could be beneficial.
But she has hesitations, too. Safety apps are just one tool.
"We shouldn't rely completely on them, because we should be able to have our peers acting as a community to help us." Sugano says. She says human interactions are important, especially since someone who's been drinking at a campus party and becomes incapacitated might not have the clarity of mind or the ability to launch an app if they're in an unsafe situation.
This isn't the first effort to create tools to help people protect themselves against sexual aggression or assault. Existing safety apps such as bSafe and Circleof6 are getting a second look in workplaces, communities and on military bases.
Circleof6, which won the Obama administration's "Apps Against Abuse" technology challenge back in 2011, was originally designed for college students. Now, it's marketed as a safety app "for everyone."
"Circleof6 was designed, really mirroring what friends, especially women, have always done for each other," says Nancy Schwartzman, chief executive officer of Tech 4 Good, LLC the company behind the app. " 'Where are you going to be, check in with me later, call me if you need me,' we say to our friends. We just brought this to the mobile context," Schwartzman says.
Users pick up to six friends to join their circle. Features include Come Get Me, which sends a text to your circle of friends with your exact location using GPS coordinates. Another option, Call Me, sends a text to your circle that says. "Call and pretend you need me. I need an interruption." The app also connects users to national hotlines and has helpful links to information about sexuality, relationships and safety.
Schwartzman acknowledges that sexual assault is a complex problem. "Apps can't solve it," she says. But her hope is that the technology can help.
DAVID GREENE, HOST:
All right, much of modern dating takes place online, often using smartphone apps. While the Internet may make getting a date easier, it is still sometimes not so simple to leave a date you don't want to be on. NPR's Allison Aubrey reports on some smartphone apps. They are designed for college students but could be useful for anyone who wants to use technology to help stay safe.
ALLISON AUBREY, BYLINE: On a recent episode of the popular sitcom "Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt," a conversation about sexual consent turns pretty ridiculous. The character Kimmy, who's new to the college scene, meets a guy who is interested in more than just conversation.
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CAMERON COWPERTHWAITE: (As Austin) But before we do this, let's review each other's sexual consent forms.
ELLIE KEMPER: (As Kimmy Schmidt) I'm sorry. What is this?
COWPERTHWAITE: (As Austin) It's what I'm agreeing to let you do to me.
KEMPER: (As Kimmy Schmidt) Oh, no. Austin, I like you, but I just met you.
AUBREY: It's over the top. Right? I mean, it's meant as entertainment, but this scene plays off some real-world uncertainty over how to navigate consent. Here is sociologist Sharyn Potter of the University of New Hampshire.
SHARYN POTTER: There is confusion regarding consent among college-aged men and women.
AUBREY: Potter researches sexual assault prevention strategies. She says sometimes the confusion stems from the different ways that men and women communicate and think about consent.
POTTER: Men see consent as an event, and women see consent as a process.
AUBREY: She says recent studies of college students show that men and women can have very different presumptions about what to expect on a date or a casual meetup.
POTTER: Think of the example of a man and woman deciding to go back to one of their rooms to watch a movie.
AUBREY: When this happens, the research shows, a woman is more likely to have this expectation.
POTTER: She's agreeing to watch the movie and maybe hold hands.
AUBREY: Whereas men, the research shows, tend to expect more of a sexual encounter.
POTTER: And so it's just these gendered expectations of what's in a yes.
AUBREY: Now, it doesn't always work this way - gender roles evolve. But either way, if you end up alone with someone whose expectations conflict with your own, the situation can go south quickly. To help prevent this, Sharyn Potter and a bunch of collaborators have come up with something new. They've developed an app called uSafeUS. It was piloted on New Hampshire campuses and is now available for anyone to download. One aim is to help people get out of sticky situations. Student Celine Guedj, who's a senior, explains how the app works.
CELINE GUEDJ: Let's say you match with somebody on Tinder, and you're talking for a couple weeks. And, you know, they say - hey, let's watch a movie at my dorm room. And you think, you know, I'm safe. I'm on campus. This is another student.
AUBREY: But once you get there, things start to get a little weird.
GUEDJ: So now you're in a situation where you're alone with this person. And you are thinking, I need to get out. I no longer feel safe.
AUBREY: That's when, Guedj says, you open the app. With a few quick touches, the app is programmed to start sending you text messages or calls.
GUEDJ: Yeah. You'd get a fake call that sounds like it's your roommate.
AUBREY: She says something like she's locked out and needs your help. Guedj says it seems real, and it gives you an excuse to get out quick.
GUEDJ: You could show that person - oh, hey, look, my roommate just messaged me. Ah, this sucks. I got to go.
AUBREY: So why the ruse? Why not just walk out at the first instinct that something's off? Guedj says that's easier said than done.
GUEDJ: In that situation where you already feel unsafe, you know, they've already given you bad vibes, it's just so important that you can leave discreetly so that it doesn't escalate.
AUBREY: There are lots of prevention apps out there with similar features. And they're not just for college students. Nancy Schwartzman developed one called Circle of 6. It's marketed as a safety app for everyone. It's being used by people across the country and even on some military bases. It connects circles of friends.
NANCY SCHWARTZMAN: Circle of 6 was designed really mirroring what friends - and especially women - have always done for each other, which is look out for each other - where are you going to be? Check in with me later if you want. I mean, this stuff's always been there, so we just brought it to the mobile context.
AUBREY: Sexual assault is a complex problem. And obviously, apps can't solve it. But Schwartzman and the researchers behind the other safety apps say they hope the technology can help.
Allison Aubrey, NPR News.
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